Engagement ring?

I was speaking with my friend V the other day about marriage and rings and what not. Now the chances of me getting married are pretty slim to begin with but i told her that i think i would feel very uncomfortable with someone giving me a $10,000.00 ring. She said that 2 months salary (gross) is not too much to spend on a ring but i think that's a lot. Apparently, it's not uncommon to get a 3 month salary ring! This assumes that the guy i marry will be making at least 5 grand a month before taxes so he would basically have to save up for like 6 months to a year (depending on what other stuff he's got going on) to buy a damn ring! does this make sense to people? it must be me. traditionally you'd have to wait a while before even thinking of getting married and then you'd have to wait until that guy saved his money to buy you a ring before he proposed. that just seems like a lot of time and energy. my mom never had an engagement ring and neither did my sister. the most expensive accessory i wear is my $12.99 watch from Sears. i can't imagine being responsible for something so valuable and so small. If someone ever gave me a ring so expensive, i'd go straight to the bank and chuck it into a vault! But is that the weight of being a committed and responsible adult? Is a ten grand ring necessary to feel secure in someone's love and commitment? I feel like i'm missing something here. i know my mom thinks i should be more girly and wear nicer clothes in softer colors but is this the mark of a woman? i think i need to find a place that offers classes in becoming a better girl.